The Right Approaching Mindset to Self-care

The Right Approaching Mindset to Self-care

Nhi (Nina) Tran, Mental Health Editor/Contributing Writer, Mayer AZ

Self-care. We have seen people address and highlight the importance of it on social media – even around us, when our classmates talk about buying crazy-expensive sneakers to “treat yourself” or going to the spa on the weekend. What kind of self-care methods have you heard about from the outside sources?

The act and the true meaning of self-care are usually misrepresented on social media, with the typical #selfcare and #seflove posts on Instagram of people applying cucumber masks or posing with the new-bought clothes. Those things could indeed serve your purpose of self-care, but the list doesn’t end there.

As an introverted, reserved, and somewhat inward-looking teenager, I found myself organizing my self-care routine quite differently from other people in my age.

Shopping and getting Starbucks is undeniably appealing, but I only do that once in a while. Being around people for too long gives me mental exhaustion (it’s why introverts are always quiet).

My self-care days are not to be postponed to the weekends, or I would gradually drown in homework and deadlines and assignments for the rest of the week (I’m kidding, it is not that bad). Whenever I felt the need to engage in a specific activity that could reduce stress and anxiety, boost my moods, and refuel myself, I made sure that it happens, even if only for 5 minutes. Why? It’s like having a smartphone at a 3% battery before a long day at work or school. You will use any spare time that you have to charge it because you don’t want your phone to die in the middle of the day.

Okay, now you know you would like to do something for yourself. Watching a movie or taking a nap doesn’t sound like a bad idea. However, what if you need something more than just a simple act? What if, the key element to self-care is not in what you do, but in how you approach it? 

There are tons of articles out there where you can find the true meaning of self-care and what you can do to practice it. Thus, this one is going to be a little dissimilar. We will talk about, not the act of self-care, but the right mindset to approach this crucial part of our lives.

It doesn’t have to be what everyone else is doing

Like I just mentioned earlier, the definition of self-care is usually misrepresented on social media, leading some of us to believe that we need to do the same things we saw, such as buying new clothes and joining a party, to perform self-care. Self-care could be anything you want, no matter how small, uncomplicated, or typical it is, as long as it does the job of resetting you to be ready for whatever is coming ahead.

Be aware of the thin borderline with self-destruction

When I said “anything,” I didn’t mean to include “anything that could destruct yourself physically and mentally.” Sure, it’s awesome to have some fun now and then. Nonetheless, try to dodge the “fun” that is illegal, unsafe, harmful, or irresponsible for yourself and others. If these categories already fit in some of your “self-care” activities, it’s never too late to stop and improve yourself. I promise you, it’s never too late.

Be aware of how it affects you later on

The purpose of self-care is to renew you and make you feel mentally and spiritually better. Thus, the activity shouldn’t cost you anything that could add more stress to you later on.

If you feel like shopping will please you, make sure you don’t blow up too much money. Drinking and partying sound absurdly entertaining, but how many of us think about the outcome before we cross the line?

Not all of us are grown-up yet, but we can always begin to learn how to be accountable for ourselves, our finance, our health, and our goals. It’s never too early to start.

Happiness is to be prioritized, not pursued

For some of us, when we seek the time to have some self-care, it’s usually because we feel tired, down, or even empty. It’s okay not to be okay; taking some time to recharge yourself certainly proves that you prioritize your well-being and your daily happiness in general. However, happiness can’t be pursued.

When you set your happiness as something to be achieved, you will tend to have a specific idea of what make you happy or bring you joy. Then, you will strive to pursue it, but the pleasure it gives you will probably never be enough, for happiness is not a goal, an object, or an achievement; it’s a state of mind.

Most of the time, it’s your mindset’s job to determine your happiness level in your life. Not all of us are lucky enough to be able to always do what we love, but we can still prioritize all those fulfilling activities when we have time, maybe a little time left until the day ends.

Self-care is not just about doing something, but also in how we approach it as well. Not everyone has the same mindset frame of its definition and the actions to perform it, but I hope my article has somehow helped you have a better understanding of what it ought to serve you. Please let me know in the comments what you think!

Thank you for your time, I deeply appreciate it!